Infidelity

Infidelity is a touchy topic. Okay. Here we go.

When a spouse goes outside of the marriage for whatever (romance, conversation, intimacy, love, etc.) it can leave a nasty burn at home. Some marriages are scarred through infidelity with a lifelong reminder of a child. Some marriages are burned so badly the bridge is no longer there. Other marriages are glued back together only to find out the adhesive wears off and the stickiness fades.

Then there are the marriages that God fixes after infidelity and both parties are restored to complete fullness and the scar from the burn is invisible as if it were never there.

There is no reason why a man or a woman should commit adultery, but sometimes they do. And just because they do, this doesn't mean it is the end of the world. God can take our worst circumstances and turn them into something miraculous. Something spectacular. Sometimes we feel as if the infidelity of our spouse was brought on because of something we did or didn't do, the fact remains that it is wrong. When we are married, we take a vow to love one another and forsake all others. However, this doesn't automatically make us unable to cheat. We aren't instantly enclosed in a "spouse bubble" and the only one who can get in is our spouse. We have to make a conscious decision to stay faithful. To love the one we're with no matter what - even if they are unlovable. All of us are unlovable at some point in time (and God continues to give us another chance).

Let's make a conscious decision today to stay in love with the one God allowed us to be with and commit completely to them. Leave outsiders just where they are - on the outside. Don't allow infidelity to ruin your marriage or your testimony to others. Remember our marriages are a representation of God's love for the church. So when people see your marriage they should see God's love so much that they will want to be a part of His family.

Infidelity. Okay. There it goes.

Love Notes/Letters

Dear Lovers,
Remember when you were dating and you would write a love letter to your mate? You may have had a special way to fold the letter so that it would be unwrapped for more pleasure. You may have had a special pen that you wrote the letter in so that it would look enticing. You may have had a special type of perfume or cologne that you sprayed on the letter so your mate would have a scent in which they would remember.

Well why not write a love letter to your spouse? Why not tell him or her about how special they are to you or how they make you feel? Why not make a little questionnaire for them to fill out on different things you want to know about them, such as their favorite restaurant, favorite movie, movie they would like to go see, favorite type of clothing, favorite store, dreams they haven't accomplished, etc.? Why not? Write your spouse a letter and put it in a nice envelope or use your special fold. Type it on the computer with a different font other than Times New Roman. Print it on color paper. Put it in a colored envelope. Spray cologne or perfume on it. Draw hearts or diamonds on the envelope or use clip art. Leave it under their pillow or in a drawer. Give it to them over dinner that you prepare. Do something nice for your spouse; write a love letter. It's small, but it's meaningful. They'll appreciate you for it.

With Love,
Always