Car Truck! or Look at God!

I'm sure you've seen this car, the Chevy El Camino or "car truck", around the city at some point or time. They are a rare appearance because there are only a few left. This is not the most popular car on today's modern streets. Well my husband and son started playing a game they call, "Car Truck". Whenever they see an El Camino they yell, "Car Truck!" and they collect points which they mentally keep track of as to who gathers the most points based on who has seen the most El Caminos. I started playing this game with them (I didn't want to feel left out) and became so obsessed with the game, that when my husband and son weren't around and I saw an El Camino, I would take a picture with my cell phone and send them a picture text labeled: "Car Truck!"

What if we did the same thing with God? That whenever we saw the glory and beauty of His work on earth and in our lives we would yell, "Look at God!" That we would begin to give glory and praise to what God is doing in our lives and the lives of others. How much time do we spend having pity parties or feeling down about things that are happening in our lives. If we put all of our energy on blessing God with our praise and gratefulness for amazing glory; we wouldn't have time for our pity parties.

Imagine waking up to the birds singing outside... because you can hear: "Look at God!" or smelling the morning dew...because you have your sense of smell: "Look at God!" What about the seeing your loved ones waking up in the morning to see another day...because you have sight: "Look at God!" How about being able to step out the bed and feel the cold floor...because you have the use of your legs: "Look at God!" Opening the bedroom door...because your arms and hands still work: "Look at God!" Or maybe you can't be grateful for any of these things....but you're still breathing: "Look at God!"

I challenge you to look at God for everything...and the next time you're riding down the street and you see an El Camino - instead of yelling "Car Truck"; let it remind you of God and His glory and yell, "Look at God!" You may even want to mentally keep track of the points you rack up as you examine all of God's glorious blessings and how many times a day you said, "Look at God!" Maybe you'll take a picture of God's blessing and text it to someone with the message: "LOOK AT GOD!"

Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. (Hebrews 12:2). Keep your eyes on God.

Faith or Fear?

I was driving one day and noticed my gas light was on letting me know that I needed gas. Well because I was in a hurry, I did not want to stop so I thought I would get the gas on the way back home. I continued to drive... but I was afraid the whole time that I might not make it to my destination and that I would be stranded. I kept looking at the gas hand as if it was going to miraculously change. I tried leaning toward the tank to put weight on that side and turning the car in a way that would make the gas hand move or stay above the empty line. I was really afraid that I would run out of gas so I ended up stopping to get gas and risked being a little late to my destination so I wouldn't be stranded on the side of the road.

However, on another occasion when my gas hand was low, I was unconcerned because my husband was trailing behind me. My gas light was on and I was driving all over the city as if I had a full tank of gas, without a care or concern. Why? Because my husband was right behind me the whole time. If I was to run out of gas, it wouldn't have mattered because he was there to save me. I could hop into his car and we could ride to the gas station; get gas and take it back to my car...no problem!

Well, that is how we should feel about life. Driving around without a concern for mediocre happenings. Why? Because our Father is right there. If we run out of gas, God is right there waiting to save us. He is waiting for us to hop into His car and ride with Him to the gas station to get gas and take it back to our car...no problem! God has it all in control. The question is are you living in fear or in faith? Are you driving around afraid that you will run out gas or are you trusting that if you do run out of gas, God is right there to save you?

In Matthew 14, Jesus had just performed the miracle of feeding 5,000, then he sends the disciples across the sea to the other side of the mountain and after dismissing the multitude, Jesus goes to pray by Himself. Later He walks on the water out to the disciples and startles them...but He assures them that they don't have to be afraid because "it is I". In fact, Peter joins Him on the water. But when Peter saw the wind, he became afraid and took his eyes off Jesus, that's when he began to sink and cry out for Jesus to save him. Notice what Jesus says to him, "You of little faith." But notice what Jesus does immediately...immediately Jesus reaches out His hand and catches Peter. But His question to Peter is "why did you doubt?"

My question to you is why do you doubt? When you know that Jesus will immediately reach out and catch you...why do you doubt? Are you exhibiting faith or fear?

Lord, thank You for Your grace and mercy. Thank You for immediately reaching out and catching us when we are about to fall. Thank You for caring about us even when we don't trust You. Thank You! Amen.

Lord, remove this thorn, please? Part 2

2 Corinthians 12:9 My Grace is Sufficient...
I never mentioned what the thorn in my life was and that was done on purpose. We all have thorns and I didn't want you to think about my personal thorn; but about your own life and what God is doing in your own life with your own personal thorn. A thorn can be anything such as our children, the job, our spouse, our in-laws, our spirituality, it can even be ourselves. Whatever your thorn is in your life allow God to work a miracle in you to move you to greatness. God may remove your thorn or like Paul, He may tell you that His Grace is Sufficient.

Well, since my last post...the specific thorn that I was asking God to remove is no longer there. This is not to say that I won't have other thorns in my life in the future. But I was praying for God to remove this particular thorn when I realized that I really didn't need God to remove it; this was something I could do on my own. Sometimes we ask God to do things in our lives that we can ourselves but we won't do it because we lack faith. The only reason why I hadn't done anything was because I was worried about the outcome in the future and what would happen down the road. (For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome. Jeremiah 29:11) But just as God's grace is sufficient so are His provisions. So I have stepped out on faith and I am allowing God to provide for my needs. Is this an easy thing to do? No. But God. Is this something we can do on our own or by ourselves? No. But God. Are there going to be hard times, trials, the enemy's trickery? Yes. But God! But God has it all under control and if we trust Him in the midst our trials; in the midst of our storms, in the midst of our thorns - His Grace is Sufficient!

Philippians 4:13 says: I can do all things through Christ who strengtheneth me. The Amplified Bible says it like this: "I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ's sufficiency]." But God! With Christ I am able to do some things I wouldn't normally be able or willing to do. With Christ I self-sufficient - with His sufficiency. I am adequate or enough with God's adequacy. I am ready! Why? Because of God's strength in me. So why am I worried about my thorn when I know God has already taken care of it? So why am I concerned about the economy when God has already taken care of it? So why am I depressed about paying bills when God has already taken care of it? So why am I envious of my brethren when God has already taken care of it? So why don't I have a closer relationship with God? Why don't I pray every day? Why don't I read His word? ...But God. Without Him we can do nothing (John 15:5); but with Him we can do all!

So don't fret when there is a thorn in your side. Ask yourself and God what is the purpose of my thorn? Reflect on if you have been spending time with God as you know you should. We have to be attached to the vine in order to produce the fruit of that vine. If you are not attached to God, then you are not producing good fruit. And to be attached to God means making Him a priority in your life by serving Him (no other gods - and those gods can be our cars, houses, money, jobs, spouses, children, anything that you worship more than God); talking to Him in prayer; listening to Him by reading His Word; and applying His statutes in your life (allowing His Will to be your will).

Remember, sometimes God allows us to go through things - not for us - but for others; for our testimony will help someone else. Sometimes it is because we need to grow. We cannot stay babes in Christ forever. And sometimes it's preparation for something God has planned for our lives. Whatever the reason for your thorn allow God's grace to be sufficient and ask Him to give you guidance in the midst of your thorn. Ask God to show you the next step for your life. Use your thorn as a learning experience and get closer to God in the process. And when your thorn is removed, don't forget God! Remember Him daily.

Thank You, Lord for Your love, Your grace, Your provisions, Your awesomeness, Your greatness, Your healing power, Your mercies, Your Son, Your Self! Thank You! Amen.

Lord, remove this thorn?

When you get a moment, read 2 Corinthians 12. It speaks of Paul who seems to be ranting about his treatment. I want to draw your attention to the statement he makes about asking God to remove the thorn from his flesh and God replies that His Grace is sufficient and His strength will be made perfect in Paul's weakness.


Well I have been struggling with my own personal thorn and I have asked God to remove it several times and like Paul, my answer seems to be the same (that God's grace is sufficient and His strength will be made perfect in my weakness). We don't like to be weak, nor do we like being imperfect (even though we know we'll never be perfect). We spend all day at the beauty shop getting just the right hair style. We take our time to get dressed, picking out the shoes and purse that match our outfit exquisitely. We make sure our suit has the perfect tie with just a hint of blue in it that will bring out the blue in our slacks. We want to be perfect. We don't like weakness. We won't cry in front of our spouse because we don't want to show weakness. We hide our feelings when we feel that we are getting to close to anyone so we won't get hurt. We don't like weakness.


But in God's world, we aren't perfect and we don't have to be strong. God will be our strength. God will be our perfection. I have struggled with asking questions of why? God, why have you allowed this to happen to me? Why does it seem I have no peace? Why would you bring me this far to leave me? Why, Lord? And His answer seems to be the same: "My grace is sufficient and My strength will be made perfect in your weakness." As I write this and sigh with a deep breath, I can be thankful that I don't feel the tears well up in my eyes...I won't lie, I have cried myself to sleep a many nights; I have cried and prayed with my face to floor; I have cried in the car calling out to Jesus! I have asked God over and over what is the plan? What's the next step? I have questioned my very existence and my purpose. ...But God. "My grace is sufficient and My strength will be made perfect in your weakness." Well Lord I am weak, weary, and worn. I need your grace. I need your strength.


Sometimes God allows us to go through things - not for us - but for others; for our testimony to help someone else. Sometimes it is because we need to grow. Sometimes it's preparation. Whatever the reason is for me...I'll remember "His grace is sufficient..." and if He removes the thorn too soon, I may not get all that I need to go to the next level. As Paul stated, if it had not been for the thorn, he would not be the man he was destined to be. He began to see the limitation as a gift...a gift from God and Paul allowed God's strength to move in on his weakness. Sometimes we need the thorn...to make us who we are destined to be.


Lord, help me to accept Your grace. Comfort me as I bear this thorn. Give me peace of mind and keep me in Your Will. To God be the Glory! Thank You Lord, for my trials for I know they are just a stepping stone to get me closer to You. Amen.

Congratulations!!

How has this challenge changed your heart and life? Did God encourage you as you planned ways to encourage your husband? Were there difficult days where you simply needed to trust that God was working?

Remember that God is faithful, and He will bless you for your willingness to obey Him. His ways are not our ways, and perhaps He will honor you in ways you do not expect, but one thing is sure: you will never be the same because of your commitment to be more like Christ!

Don't forget to post your comments, to journal your progress, and to continue encouraging your husband. Hopefully this has been a wonderful journey of renewal. And if you didn't do so well, then do it again next month or the month after. Our challenge is to continue this for a lifetime.

DAY 30 of 30 Day Challenge!

"This is my beloved, and this is my friend . . ." (Song of Solomon 5:16b)

Friends can be completely honest with each other, but friendships are strained when truth is not spoken in love. How are you speaking to your beloved? Are you so "used" to him that you don't appreciate the wonder of his friendship? That is your challenge today.

Is your sweetheart your best friend? Does he know this? Have you told him, or do you assume he "just knows"?

Friendship is something that is cultivated through the good times and the bad. Friends can share their hearts, but they don't step on each other's hearts.

The way to have and be a good friend is to cultivate and celebrate the relationship. As you end this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge," celebrate your friendship with your husband. Get alone and reflect on your beloved friend. Write him a letter, listing the qualities you admire and appreciate about him. If you are creative with words, write and frame a poem about him.

Perhaps you can prepare a special meal, just for the two of you, and read the letter or poem to him. Ask if you can pray for him, and if he is willing, thank God for your love and friendship, asking for His blessing on your home.

Encouragement, as you have seen these past 30 days, is a synonym for love in action.

Lord, as I finish the 30 day challenge, please don't let me forget to incorporate this encouragement for a lifetime. Thank You for my best friend. Thank You for our marriage; our relationship. Keep us, guide us, and strengthen us. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 29 of 30 Day Challenge

"A prudent man foresees evil, and hides himself; the simple pass on, and are punished." (Proverbs 27:12)

As you near the end of this challenge, take time to think about your husband's responses to the wickedness of the culture, the media, etc. Does your husband recognize and avoid evil? Does he regularly turn his back on pornography, sexual temptations, and the urge to lie and cheat?

This is a valuable character trait. Like Joseph in the Old Testament, who fled from the wicked advances of Potiphar's wife, this takes an understanding that these kinds of sins are first and foremost, sins against God (Genesis 39:9).

Praise your husband when he recognizes and turns his back on wickedness. If you can think of a circumstance where your husband stood for righteousness, remind him of that today--and express your gratitude.

Lord, again thank You for protecting my husband from the wickedness of the world and for giving him a way of escape when he is faced with temptations. Continue to keep us in the path of righteousness. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 28 of 30 Day Challenge

"The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom, and before honor is humility." (Proverbs 15:33)

Sometimes, when we just "know" we are right and our husbands are wrong, it takes great humility to honor them. It is difficult to speak well of our husbands when our own hearts are puffed up with pride.

As part of your challenge today, pray that you will respond to the Lord in faith and humility before you react to your husband. Speak wisely and well, and leave the results to God.

The humility that comes from a right relationship with God--the humility that comes when a man is willing to listen to God and be taught from His Word--is indeed a beautiful quality. Jesus was an example of this kind of humility when he was willing to submit to His Father's will (John 6:38; Matthew 26:39).

Does your husband have that kind of humility? Is he willing to learn from and submit to direction from the Lord? Let your husband know how precious this is to your marriage relationship.

Lord, help me not to be boastful in my relationship. Help me to always speak wisely of my husband even when I may not feel like it. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 27 of 30 Day Challenge

"Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in the LORD." (Psalm 31:24)

You have almost completed the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge." Perhaps it has taken you a tremendous amount of courage to speak words of ecouragement consistently to your husband. Courage comes as we place our trust in God. Have faith that God will continue to work long after your encouraging words have been shared.

There are lots of "tough guys" in the world, but true courage comes from the Lord. Does your husband exhibit the courage to take an unpopular stand, perhaps even to stand alone against evil? Is he courageous in his faith? Does he work hard to change injustice? Is he a stickler for the truth? Does he protect you or your family from the attacks of the Enemy?

Psalm 27:14 says this kind of courage comes from "waiting" on the Lord for His strength. If your budget allows, "award" your husband with a medal, trophy, framed picture of a brave knight, or some other token that represents his courage as a man of God. Praise evidences of your husband's courage in protecting you, your marriage, your family, or your home.

Lord, thank You for a courageous husband...one that is not afraid to stand up for what he believes in. Thank You for his faith in You and for his relationship with You. Help us to better at serving You. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 26 of 30 Day Challenge

"And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men." (Luke 2:52)

If you have faithfully encouraged your husband, you will no doubt have seen some changes in his life . . . and your own life, as well. Encouragement is a wonderful habit that we hope you will continue for the rest of your life.

The important thing is to keep growing in Christ and obeying the Word of God as you respond to your husband. As you consider today how to bless your husband and not tear him down, think of ways that you can encourage balance in your home.

Jesus led a balanced life. He grew mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. As you see your husband branching out in these areas, is there a pattern of growth? Is your husband striving for balance in his life? If so, let him know you have noticed, and ask how you can further encourage that balance.

If your husband is out of balance--focusing on one area to the exclusion of the others, consider whether there are things you can do to help restore or create balance in his life. Can you encourage times for sports or exercise? Keep the children quiet for a study time? Invite friends over for dinner? Stimulate his mind?

Be sure you are working toward balance in your own life, as well. Be an example!

Father God, help me to be an example of balance in the home. Thank You for balancing us when things seem out of order. Continue to keep our home life balanced so that we are able to do what needs to get done at home, work, and in every aspect of our lives. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 25 of 30 Day Challenge

"Seek peace, and pursue it." (Psalm 34:14b)

"You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You." (Isaiah 26:3)

Before you consider whether these verses describe your husband, consider your own presence in the home. Do you promote an atmosphere of peace, or do critical words often flow from your mouth? Do you struggle with anger? If so, before you continue with this challenge, confess these sinful habits to the Lord, and determine to speak words of peace to your family today.

Does your husband bring an atmosphere of peace into your home? Is his presence a calming influence? Does he bring music, entertainment, books, or people into your home that build a sense of serenity? Let him know how much you appreciate this wonderful quality, and support his choices.

If, on the other hand, he is quickly angered or he creates chaos rather than calm, ask God to give you an abundance of the kind of peace that will speak to his heart. Be patient and loving. Create an inviting atmosphere of peace, as much as possible.

Thank You, Lord, for perfect peace. Peace that I did not understand until now. Thank You, Lord, that You allow us to have a peaceful home and for my husband's calm spirit. Help me to be better at creating peace and calmness. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 24 of 30 Day Challenge

"And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord." (Ephesians 6:4)

Children can be quite a challenge to the marriage relationship. A wise wife will support her husband's leadership in the home as much as possible, and will praise him for his fathering skills. Negativity makes a man feel like a failure, and may make him to want to give up.

Does your husband discipline your children wisely? Does he show them love and encourage them? Does he take an interest in their activities and dreams? Does he spend time with them? Does he take part in developing their character? Praise him for these important life skills.

If you don't have children, is your husband positive and encouraging around other people's children? Let him know that you have noticed.

If your husband does not experience positive relationships with children, you will need to figure out why. Perhaps he had negative experiences as a child with his own parents, and needs to learn how to respond. Perhaps you can lovingly and patiently show him how to parent--while still maintaining his authority in the home.

Lord, I thank You for my husband's place in our home and for his involvement with our children. If there is any tension between him and our children, please remove that now and allow him to have a positive relationship with them. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 23 of 30 Day Challenge

"Let your speech always be with grace." (Colossians 4:6a)

You're moving toward the home stretch of your 30-day challenge! Just a reminder of what you've committed:

"You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to him or to anyone else. Each day, say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to him and to someone else.

"In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works." (Titus 2:7a)

Does the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" seem like hard work? Or is it becoming a pleasant exercise in genuine Christ-likeness in your home? You are only scratching the surface of ways to encourage your mate.

Is your husband organized? Is he diligent? Is he persistent? These are all related to a pattern of personal disciplines that are worthy of your praise. Affirm him for one or more of these traits that you see in him.

Some men have not developed these qualities because they are naturally more spontaneous. You can praise his spontaneity! Perhaps God has called you alongside to help him with disciplines he has not yet developed--but this does not include nagging.

Whatever the need, you can be your husband's cheerleader, encouraging him when he wants to give up.

Thank You, Lord that I have an organized husband and that he is diligent in his life and persistent with his goals. Help us both to continue this pattern. And help me to appreciate these qualities in him. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 22 of 30 Day Challenge

"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you." (Matthew 6:33)

If we are living in light of eternity, everything we think, do, or say is seen from an eternal perspective. We will someday give an account for our failure to speak words of love and encouragement. Determine today that your words will be sweet and helpful.

Does your husband have an eternal perspective that allows him to reject materialism and temporal values? Express your gratefulness for his value system, and praise him for putting eternal things before riches and other things of this world.

If this is a problem area for him, consider how you might alter your own value system and live for eternity in front of him, encouraging him to do the same. Only two things will last into eternity: the Word of God and people. Be sure that you are focusing on the right things.

Lord, thank You that my husband has an eternal perspective and that he is not focused on materialism and temporal values. Help us to continue to grow in relationship with You. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 21 of 30 Day Challenge

"Be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you." (Ephesians 4:32)

It's time for some heart examination. As you continue in this 30-day challenge, have you found any roots of bitterness that are contaminating your relationship with your husband? Do you understand that as long as you are unwilling to forgive your husband (by God's grace and in His power) you will not be able to encourage him? Your own resentment will keep getting in the way. Now is the time to deal with any unforgiving attitudes. Forgive him, even as God has forgiven you.

Is your husband a forgiving man? Does he keep short accounts of your problems? Express your thankfulness for such a man.

Does your husband seem to harbor grudges against you? If so, could there be things you need to change? Do you possibly need to ask forgiveness for an offense? Help your husband be more forgiving by quickly forgiving him for his mistakes.
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Ladies, usually doing something for 21 days becomes a habit. Have you gotten into the habit of encouraging your husband, yet? If not, maybe you haven't done this for 21 days...keep trying. We want this to be habit forming. We want to be lifetime encouragers.

Lord, thank You that You are a forgiving God and that You don't bring up my past faults - You cast into the sea of forgetfulness. Help me to also be forgiving to my husband. Don't allow me to harbor bitterness and unforgiveness in my heart for him and don't allow him to hold bitterness and unforgiveness in his heart for me. Help us to love one another the way You would have us to love with agape love. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 20 of 30 Day Challenge

Read this wife's description of her beloved in Song of Solomon 5:10-16.

Criticism leaves scar; encouragement can bring healing. Remember that today as you focus on your "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge."

Almost nothing is as devastating to a man as the belief that his wife finds him repulsive. Sadly, many women unwisely criticize their husbands' bodies.

Have you ever considered how wonderfully God designed men and women? No matter how a man looks by the standards of the world, a loving God designed them all, and they are all "beautiful" in His sight. Encourage your husband today by praising his uniqueness.

As you look over your husband's body, from the tip of his toes to his bald or bushy head, thank God that your husband is "wonderfully made," then admire your husband verbally. (Strong arms? Hairy chest? Firm hands? Big feet? Rugged chin? Wide shoulders? Compassionate eyes? Broad smile?)

Lord, thank You for the beautiful man in my life. Thank You for this sexy husband, for his big hands and big heart. Thank You for his sexy eyes...for his sauve smile...for his touchable ears...for his kissable lips...for his nice strong grip...for his thick thighs...for his huggable back...for him! For his being here every morning when I wake up. For his being here when I go to sleep. For his caresses. For his touches. For his kisses. For his love. Thank You. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 19 of 30 Day Challenge

"You will show me the path of life. In your presence is fullness of joy. Happy are the people whose God is the LORD!" (Psalm 16:11a; 144:15b)

"A merry heart does good, like medicine." (Proverbs 17:22a)

It's hard to criticize others when we are enjoying their company. Instead of speaking negatively to your husband today, enjoy him! Encourage him! As you experience fullness of joy with God, share some of that joy with your husband.

Does your husband have a playful side? A great sense of humor? Is there a "little boy" that wants to escape from time to time, reflecting the joy in his heart?

This is a wonderful part of who he is, and a great strength. Let him know that you appreciate his joyfulness and his playful spirit. Find opportunities to join him in positive play times.

If your husband can sometimes be overly serious, coax him out occasionally for some play times. It will help him relieve stress and relax.
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Ladies, make sure you are journaling your progress thus far and that you are praying that God will help you continue on your journey.

Lord, thank You for the husband You have given me. Help me to appreciate his qualities - all of them. Help me to love him for who he is and not to try to change him. Only You can change him and I want him to be what You want him to be. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 18 of 30 Day Challenge

"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding." (Proverbs 9:10)

Are you a wise woman? Do you open your mouth with wisdom, as Proverbs 31:26 suggests? As you continue in your 30-day challenge, remember that a wise woman encourages her husband.

Is your husband a "wise man?" Does he have a godly perspective that comes from knowing God and walking with Him in obedience? Does he have a sense of purpose for his life and vision for your home? Tell him how much this means to you.

If you are not sure about your husband's vision for your home, ask him, "Honey, what do you want to accomplish with our marriage and home in the years to come?" and "How can I help you accomplish that?"

If he does not have a vision, your questions may inspire him to develop one.

If your husband is not walking with God--or perhaps, does not know the Lord--you have the opportunity and responsibility to practice your faith and create a thirst for God. Thank God for giving your husband a place in his heart that only He can fill, and keep praying that he will turn to the Lord to fill that vacuum!

Lord Jesus, thank You for making me a wise woman and thank You for a wise husband. I pray that You will help me to encourage my husband to walk in obedience to You and that I will be supportive of his vision for our family (even if I don't agree with it). I thank You that my husband is inspired by Your wisdom and that he continues to walk in alignment with You. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 17 of 30 Day Challenge

"And the LORD God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." (Genesis 2:18)

God says that it is not good for man to be alone. But the way some women criticize their mates, their husbands may long for solitude. Be careful today not to criticize your mate, but look for ways to encourage him personally and publicly.

Speaking of communication, does your husband communicate with you? God has made you a companion and helper for your husband, and part of being "one flesh" with him is the privilege of sharing and discussing personal needs and concerns. Thank God for that wonderful gift. Thank your husband for communicating with you.

If your spouse does not communicate as you wish, look for ways that he communicates that are normal for him--smiling at you, nodding his head, even a pleasant "grunt!"--and then thank him for letting you know that he cares. Perhaps he needs to be lovingly taught how to communicate. Be patient with him . . . and listen when he does speak.

Lord, help me to affirm my husband as he communicates more with me. Help me not to be criticizing so that he won't want to share with me through communication. Help me to lift him up and not judge him and to listen to him attentively when he is talking. Thank You for a husband that wants to communicate with me and not anyone else. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 16 of 30 Day Challenge

"Grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ."
(2 Peter 3:18a)

Sometimes we live so close to our spouse that we fail to see him as others do; we only see our husband's faults.

Take a step back. Perhaps he is growing spiritually in ways you have failed to appreciate. How can you encourage his growth in a fresh, new way? Remember--your husband is accountable to God for his spiritual development. You are accountable to God to encourage and not hinder that growth.

Can you identify an area of spiritual strength in your husband? Does he pray or read his Bible regularly? Does he like to read about or discuss spiritual matters? Does he go to church with you? Is he a spiritual leader? What do others say about him? If you can identify a specific area, praise him for that.

If not, pray earnestly that God will work in his heart, and watch for signs of spiritual growth in the future.

Lord, I want to thank You for a praying husband, for a church-going husband, for a husband that loves You and reverences You. Thank You that he is trying to serve You for the benefit of our family. And Lord help him to be the man that You would have him to be. The husband that You would have him to be, not what I want, but what You want him to be. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 15 of 30 Day Challenge

"Let your speech always be with grace." (Colossians 4:6a)

Focus today on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your community. In this challenge to encourage, ask: "If everything my family and friends knew about my husband came from a filter of what I've said about him, what would they think of my husband?" Do you need to change the filter?

Do you speak positively about your husband to others, or do you complain and criticize? Your speech should reflect 1 Corinthians 13 love. Your words should be kind, and should never "rejoice in iniquity" (v. 6). Refrain from listing your husband's faults to others. Satan likes to trick us in this area; be wary of sharing barbed "prayer requests."

Remember, "Love will cover a multitude of sins" (1 Peter 4:8b). Present your husband before others today in a strong, positive manner. Slip in a "good word" for your spouse. Resist the urge to correct or belittle him in front of others. Some of what you say may come back to him, and you want your words to be sweet, building him up and never tearing him down.

Don't forget: you are always criticizing--or encouraging--before an audience. God hears your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your speech be always seasoned with grace.

Lord, do not allow the enemy to penetrate my heart and in turn speak evil of my husband. Help me to always be uplifting in my speech about him and to say only good things about him to others. Use me as a vessel in which only good things are poured out of about my husband-that when others hear they will know how great he is. Lord I can only do this with Your help. Remind me that this is exactly what I would want to hear about myself from my husband. Help me to see him with Your eyes. Thank You. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 14 of 30 Day Challenge

"The righteous man walks in his integrity." (Proverbs 20:7a)

Every week there are news reports about men who gave in to temptations and compromised what they said they believed. We hear countless reports about dishonest business dealings, hidden infidelity, and hypocritical leaders. It's so easy to focus on these things and ignore those who are being honest, faithful, and genuine. As you continue in the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge", determine to look for ways that your husband stands against the culture.

Is your spouse a man of integrity? Is he fair in his dealings with people? Does he understand the meaning of justice? Is he honest in business? Unhypocritical in his faith? Consider all the ways a man can live in integrity, and praise your husband for one of them.

As you have the opportunity--as it is appropriate--share examples of your husband's honesty and integrity with others.

Dear God, help my husband to remain faithful to his vows and keep all temptation away from him. Thank You, Lord that he has not fallen into the trap of temptation and that if he does, You will make a way of escape. Thank You for protecting my family from harm and the scars of unfaithfulness. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 13 of 30 Day Challenge

"I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me." (Song of Solomon 7:10)

The sexual relationship. It's one of those elements--along with money and children--that can derail a marriage through negative comments. Negativity destroys intimacy, but encouragement builds and strengthens the marriage bond.

Let's get practical here. Is your husband a "good lover?" Have you told him so? Be specific. Let him know when he pleases you. Most husbands genuinely want to please their wives, especially in this important area of marriage.

In moments of intimacy, do you find your mind wandering? This can change as you focus on something wonderful about your husband. Realize that your husband wants intimacy with you. His desire is toward you.

Does this area of your marriage need some work? Remember that this is a sensitive area for men. Be sure to encourage his lovemaking and masculinity in positive ways.

Dear Lord, help me to appreciate my husband as a lover. Make our marriage bed one of great satisfaction that my desire is only to him and him alone. Help to see my husband as a beautiful creation from You and to tell him that he is a great lover and mean it. In Jesus' name, Amen.

The Adjustment Bureau

I was watching a movie the other night called The Adjustment Bureau. I had already seen the previews, so I knew a little bit about the theme of the movie. It is about a man who is running and leading for senate but something in his past surfaces (which could keep him from winning) and he his numbers begin to plummet. Then he meets a lady and instantly they fall in love, but he doesn't get her name or number. However, he runs into her again on a bus and this time he gets her number. This is where the adjustment bureau comes in to change his fate or destiny because he can't be with this woman. He is supposed to eventually run for president; and she is eventually going to be a world renowned ballet dancer. But if the two of them stay together, they will crush each other's dream...because basically they will want to spend all their time together and not pursue their goals with as much effort as they did before. Sound familiar?

Well all of this made me think about the adjustments in our own lives. How sometimes we take a detour instead of going the same way home from work and we avoid an accident. Or we are running late for work and we avoid traffic. Or we decide to go to this particular gathering and we meet our husband or wife. Or we choose this store to shop in and we meet our new best friend. Chance occurrences, surprise meetings, fate, destiny...or God?

When we're really in tune with the Holy Spirit (our adjustment bureau), He will guide our footsteps and tell us when to go left, when to go right, when to keep straight, when to stop. He will keep us from that big accident, that traffic jam, from the wrong husband or wife. The Holy Spirit will help us become who we are destined to be: senator, president, cashier, store clerk, student, counselor, teacher, fireman, postal worker, coach, professional ball player, etc. In the movie, the adjustment bureau's job was to keep David and Elise away from each other and to get David's life back on track to be president; but they weren't able to control David. But that's not the case with our God. God is always in control...however, sometimes He allows us to do what we want...like the children of Israel from this week's Sunday school lesson. (They were disobedient when God told them to kill all of the Canaanites, but they didn't and they began to worship the gods of Canaan (Baal and Ashtaroth)and upset God so much that the hand of God was upon them for evil. Read the story in Judges 2 when you get a chance). But sometimes God allows us to do what we want and then when we get into trouble, we tend to call on Him. But again when everything is fine, we seem to forget Him.

This movie made me think about our relationship with God and how important it is to have one. I can't begin to tell you how many mistakes I made because I didn't listen to the Holy Spirit. I know that He has always talked to me and you have heard Him too, but thought that you should have followed your first mind (that was the Holy Spirit) but if you are not in tune with Him, His voice is real faint and you can barely hear Him. It's that inner voice that tells us when we're doing wrong...when we're going the wrong way...when we need to go this way or that way...when we need to help someone...when we need to speak to someone...when we need to listen to someone...when we need to be obedient. How many times have you had a conversation with a stranger and afterwards, you thought "Wow, I needed that!" Jesus promised us a comforter and that comforter is the Holy Spirit (John 14:26) And because of our disobedience; we are sometimes put into situations where we're unhappy and calling on God about our situation. But God wants you to check with Him before you make decisions that will cause you grief. Most of the time, we don't have to check with Him...if we just read our manual (the Bible) then we will know what to do in many situations because He has already told us and He has given us examples of people who were in the same situation and how they conquered or failed and their consequences. God has given us everything we need to survive in this world, but many of us don't take the time to read the manual (in fact I wrote a blog about reading the manual - that we read a manual for our car, for putting together a bookshelf, for fixing a leak, etc. but we won't read our manual to know what we are to do).

Okay, back to the movie- how many people have you met over the years and later you thought...that was supposed to be husband or my wife but you let them get away and now it's too late? Or maybe you were like the characters in the movie - they decided no matter what; they were going to be together and they took that chance? We don't have the luxury to see into the future like this couple; but we do have a God that can give us the wisdom to know who is right and wrong for us. We don't need the "adjustment bureau"; we have our own: God; Jesus; the Holy Spirit. Do you need an adjustment? Have you talked to your adjustment bureau lately? Have you read the manual lately? Do you need an adjustment?

DAY 12 of 30 Day Challenge

"With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love." (Ephesians 4:2)

Part of the difficulty you may face as you continue in this 30-day challenge is that you really are struggling to find positive things to praise your husband for. Perhaps the problem is not with your husband. Have you checked your own heart?

Sometimes we get disillusioned because of our own unreasonable or unrealistic expectations (Proverbs 13:12). It may not be that our mates are doing something wrong; it's simply that we expect too much in some areas.

Our expectations must be met in God alone, and then we will have the right perspective to ask God for the healing and grace we need to respond to others.

How sad that we give more grace to others than to those in our own homes. Today, try to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Verbally thank your husband for what he is already doing.

Lord, help me to find positive things to say about my husband. Help me to put my expectations in You and not in my husband. Help me to understand that he is not able to fulfill all my needs and that only You alone can do that. But sometimes it is hard for me to grasp this idea. Help me to be mindful of this and to turn to You when my husband does not fulfill my needs. Thank You. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 11 of 30 Day Challenge

Day 11

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." (Ephesians 5:22)

Women who are constantly negative toward their husbands--especially by speaking evil of them to others--show great disrespect. Determine not to do that today (or ever!). This challenge to encourage is closely connected to submission.

Men respond to women who respect them. What do you respect about your husband? Part of that respect includes submission to his authority. Let your husband know how respecting him makes it easier to submit to his leadership. Show your respect in public by listening to him and smiling at him when he speaks. Place your hand in his as you walk together.

If you feel there is nothing to respect, search harder . . . nearly every man has some core characteristic that can be nurtured and respected. In any case, you must still cultivate a submissive spirit to his position of leadership . . . "as to the Lord."

Lord, help me to remember my husband as the leader of our family. Help me to respect him and submit to his authority as he submits to You. Thank You for a husband that is leading by example and following God's example. Thank You, Lord for my husband. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 10 of 30-day Challenge

Day 10
"Behold, you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!" (Song of Solomon 1:16a)

We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved. Early love letters probably reflected your admiration of your husband, but if you're not careful, your spouse will forget why you were drawn to him. If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.

When we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent
admiring them. As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, "How can I admire him?"

Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the
characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical
characteristic, or something else?

Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easy-going confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him!


Lord, remind me of how attractive my husband is and help me remember his love for me. Help me not to take him for granted. Help me to admire him and lift him up. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 9 of 30-day Challenge

Day 9

"Be swift to hear, slow to speak . . ." (James 1:19b)

We are often so busy speaking that we don't take time to listen. We are so quick to offer a comment--negative or positive--that we don't really "hear" our husband's heart. Remember, we have two ears and only one mouth. We need to listen more!

As you continue in your 30-day challenge, hear the Lord's admonition: "Be swift to hear."

If listening is a real problem for you, play a game with yourself. See if you can listen to your husband for one whole day, only speaking when asked a question. If your husband notices the difference, explain that you are learning to listen more--not only to God, but also to him.

One easy way to express admiration for your husband is to ask a question about something he enjoys, and then listen to his response. If it's an area of personal familiarity, keep asking questions until you learn something you didn't know, then tell him, "Wow, I didn't know that!"

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Okay, Ladies is this a hard one for you? We all like to talk, but let's just listen.

Lord, help me to listen to my spouse more. Help me to really pay attention to what he is saying. Help me to focus on him completely when he is talking (and not doing something else - while listening). Thank You that I have a husband that is willing to talk to me. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 8 of 30-day Challenge

How are you doing with the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge"? In case you've forgotten, here's the challenge:

* You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to your husband, or to anyone else.

* Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to your husband and to someone else.

"But who can find a faithful man?" (Proverbs 20:6b)

Faithfulness is a wonderful but rare quality today, especially in regard to marriage. Do you understand how important this quality is? Your challenge is to continue to root out all negative speaking, and plant seeds of encouragement instead. You may be amazed at what will grow.

Contemporary culture often entices men to be unfaithful to their wedding vows and spiritual commitments. Appreciate your husband's faithfulness--how he is loyal to you. Let him know that you are glad he has "stick-to-it-iveness" in your marriage. Appreciate his faithfulness to God.

If you have an unfaithful husband, this is a difficult area for you. Pray, speak the truth in love, remain faithful yourself, and discover ways to encourage faithfulness in your mate. The Bible says that husbands may "be won by the conduct of their wives" (1 Peter 3:1b). You may also want to seek counsel from a mature, godly individual or couple.

Lord, I pray that you will keep all temptation away from my husband. Help him to remain faithful to his vows and to his wife. Give him a way of escape when he is tempted. I thank You for his faithfulness to me and our family. I thank You that I have a husband that is committed to me and only me. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 7 of 30-day Challenge

Day 7

"Do not overwork to be rich; because of your own understanding, cease! For riches certainly make themselves wings." (Proverbs 23:4, 5b)

"That I may cause those who love me to inherit wealth, that I may fill their treasuries." (Proverbs 8:21)

Money is the root of much marital discord. Ask yourself, "Am I being negative toward my husband in the area of finances?" Determine not to speak evil of your husband in this area. Discover ways to encourage and help him instead.

Does your husband handle finances wisely? Does he make good financial investments, based on biblical principles? Does he have a budget? Does he make wise decisions about purchases--checking many sources before he buys? Is he a good steward of his money before the Lord? Let him know how much you appreciate his strengths in financial matters.

If he is weak in this area, encourage any good decisions that he does make. Perhaps you can help him, if he's open to the idea, by organizing financial files or providing other practical assistance. Or, if he wants you to handle the finances, ask for his input before you make decisions that will affect him.

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Ladies, it has almost been a week... how are you feeling about the challenge? Are you being an encourager? Hopefully you are staying on track. Remember this is about the time that you want to journal your progress and your thoughts. I am sure that each of you are doing an excellent job! Keep it up!

Lord, I come to You again...to say thank You! Thank You for a wonderful man of God, one who knows how to handle our finances and is not frivolous with our funds. Lord, thank You for a man who takes care of our home and supports our family. And Lord, if my husband is struggling in this area, please bless him that he will do better. That he will be the husband You have called him to be and that he will be a good steward over our finances. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 6 of 30-day Challenge

Day 6
"Whatever you do, do all to the glory of God." (1 Corinthians 10:31b)

Do you recognize and appreciate your husband's creativity? Or do you criticize and demean his efforts? Instead of negativity, determine to be positive. Perhaps you can help your husband see that his efforts are an opportunity to glorify God.

Is your husband the "creative" type? Does he have any artistic gifts? What is that special "knack" he has? Affirm him for his handiwork--a hobby, music, gardening, tinkering with cars, working with wood, etc. Remember: Even if he doesn't measure up to your standards, praise his efforts. If your budget allows, buy him a book or magazine that will continue to encourage his special skill or talent.

If you have a hard time finding his "creative side," understand that men's creativity sometimes is related to their work. Find something he does to make his job run more smoothly or something he does that adds value to his work, and let him know that you have noticed.

Make his day--Praise his accomplishments in public, while he is listening.

Lord, You made my husband - and I am thankful. I thank You for his creativity, for his gifts, and for his love. Thank You, Lord for making such a wonderful creation for I know that all things work together for good to them that love the Lord (Romans 8:28). In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 5 of 30-day Challenge

Day 5

"Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers." (Ephesians 4:29)

Another way to describe the positive side of this "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" is by using the word "edify," which means, "to build up." Negative comments only discourage and tear down. Positive comments encourage and build.

Do you edify your husband before others, adding to his value in their eyes? This is especially important with other family members.

Do you praise your husband to his relatives, and yours? Does your husband's mother know how much you love him? How about your dad? Perhaps you can drop a word of praise into a conversation or letter. Be creative in letting your relatives know that you respect your husband, love him, and support him--in spite of whatever flaws and weaknesses he may have.

Dear Lord, remind me that my husband is special and a gift from you. He could have chosen any woman, but he chose me. Remind me that our marriage is a gift and help me to edify him always despite his flaws and weaknesses. In Jesus' name, Amen.

DAY 4 of 30-Day Challenge

"Let him labor, working with his hands what is good . . ." (Ephesians 4:28b)

We are all accountable for the things we say, both negative and positive words. Have you embraced the challenge to speak only positive things to your husband and to others about him? Here's a suggestion that touches the core of your husband's world.

Some women take their husband's career for granted, and they show it in many ways. Do you "dump" on your husband at the end of the workday, or do you strengthen and encourage him with your words? A wise wife will make her husband feel that she values and appreciates his work. Let him know that you are glad he is a hard worker. Take opportunities to praise his diligence and resourcefulness to others.

If your husband is out of work, unable to work, or refuses to work, you'll need to be more creative. Praise him for a character quality that you see in him that would be a vital part of a successful career - such as persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind, organizational skills, good with people, good listener, determination, etc.

Father God, help me to accept my husband for who he is and to accept his career. Help me to show my appreciation by not adding to his stress. Help me to not take his career for granted. Show me ways that I can be appreciative and build him up. In Jesus' name, Amen.

30-Day Challenge DAY 3

Day Three
Love suffers long, and is kind. (1 Cor. 13:4)
And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ
Jesus. (Phil. 4:19)
Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider your Encouragement Challenge,
determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband.
Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement.
If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank
him for his kindness and consideration. Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to
be both tough and tender.
Sometimes it's difficult for a man to be gentle, kind or tender—especially if he hasn't had
role models in these areas. If he's not a considerate person, appeal to him for help
without complaining. Let him know that it's hard for you to handle some things alone.
Then, when he moves in to help, don't insist that he do it your way. Be glad that he is
responding, and express your gratitude.
Ultimately, you can't expect your husband to make you feel more secure, loved, etc.
Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart.

Ladies, I know you are doing a great job with this challenge. I hope by now since it's the weekend that you have had a chance to journal a little and record your thoughts, your changes, your demeanor, or your husband's changes. Maybe he's wondering why you have been so nice the last couple of days. Hopefully this not too out of character for you.

Father God, we come to tell you thank you for blessing us with a wonderful husband. Help us not to take him for granted and to appreciate even the little things he does such as taking out the garbage, getting my car washed, calling me throughout the day, going to work, & for loving me. Thank you that you've allowed me to wake up every morning and find he is still living and beside me. I know that there are some women that have lost their husbands, thank you Lord for allowing me to spend more time on earth with mine. Help me to continue to be a blessing to him, daily. Thank you. In Jesus' name, Amen.

30-Day Challenge DAY 2

Day Two
Through love serve one another. (Gal. 5:13b)
How did you do yesterday with your first day of blessing and encouraging your
husband? Was it easy? Was it hard to hold your tongue when you wanted to say
something negative? We hope you're off to a good start. (If you blew it, don't give up - start again today!) There are so many practical things you can praise, if you look for them.

Today, find some way that your husband is serving you or your family. Does he help
around the house? Take care of the car? Fix things that are broken? If your budget
allows, give him a new, small tool with a big bow attached. But make sure he doesn't
think it's part of a "Honey Do" list!
Maybe your husband's not a handyman, but does he run errands for you? Let you go
first? Take care of you when you are sick? Help you make decisions? Praise him for his willingness to serve others. Let him know that you see his unique service as a great strength.


Okay, Ladies - this is day 2! If you didn't do so well yesterday, that's okay. Dust yourself off and try again!

Father God as we struggle with our own shortcomings, give us strength. Help us to understand that our husbands will never be able to supply all of our needs - that's Your job! But give us comfort when they fall short and help us to still be what they need even when they are not being what we need. And Lord, be swift to pick up the slack so we won't even notice that they haven't met our needs. Thank you. In Jesus' name, Amen.

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30-Day Challenge DAY 1

Day One
The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does
him good and not evil all the days of her life. (Prov. 31:11-12)

To refresh your memory, here's the 30-Day Encouragement Challenge for the next 30
days:
 You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to your husband . . . or to anyone else, about your husband.
 Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to your
husband . . . and to someone else, about your husband!
To help you get started, have you ever thanked your husband for choosing you above
all other women? He found you attractive as a person, and appreciated you. Though
many circumstances in your marriage may have changed, let your husband know that
you are glad God led you together, and that you want to be a blessing to him for the rest of your marriage. Let him know that he can trust you to be in his corner.
One of the best opportunities to express your gratitude is first thing in the morning. How do you greet your husband each morning? Is he confident in your love? Give him a "wake up call" that he'll never forget—a big "I love you" and an "I'm so glad I'm your wife!" and you may want to add: "I respect you"!

Suggestions for creativity with this: instead of just saying it; write a letter to him expressing this. Write it on pretty stationary and place it in a matching envelope and spray a little perfume on the letter (not too much, you don't want the ink to run). If you don't have any stationary - don't let that stop you, write it on notebook paper or computer paper. Then slip the letter underneath his pillow or in his pants pocket or his lunch (that you prepared). Be creative! Have fun with this!


So what are your thoughts? Day one doesn't seem too hard. Take a deep breath...exhale...now go encourage your husband (or significant other). You can do it! You can do all things through Christ that has strengthened you. (Philippians 4:13)

Father God, please bless every woman reading this post and completing this challenge...give her the strength and compassion to be the wife you've called her to be. Let her light so shine that men will see and that You will get the glory. Allow her to be a blessing to her husband and help her to build him up and not tear him down. In Jesus name, Amen.

Are you up for the challenge?

I was reading Every Woman's Marriage, by Shannon & Greg Ethridge, last night and I had to get a few bandages for the cuts I sustained while reading. I was reminded that I have fallen short in my marriage in the way I handle situations, my attitude, and my conversation. There was a part in the book where the wife explains how she was working in all these different ministries at church and her husband only worked at his job - he wasn't involved in any ministries at the church and she wondered why, so she asked him why he wasn't more involved in ministry like she was. And do you want to know what he said? He told her that when he married her, God told him that she would be his ministry...and until further notice he was not to have another one. Ouch! You mean marriage is a ministry? Yes it is... and a very lucrative ministry (it may not bring you financial revenue, but the profit you gain is great in comparison). If this husband had been involved in different ministries at church and if he worked a full-time job, then when would he have time for his wife? She would probably not be happy with that situation either. She realized that his working 50 hours a week - provided time for her to be a part of different ministries without having to worry about going to work, taking care of a family, and being a good wife. That, basically he supported and provided for them while her job was taking care of the home and doing ministry. She then began to be thankful for his non-involvement in other ministries.

Sometimes we can be so caught up in doing church business that we forget about our families. How can we be effective ministers to others outside our home, if we are neglecting those inside the home. How can I minister to a couple about their relationship and the time they spend when I haven't invested that time in my own relationship? Our marriages are to be examples to the world about God's love for the church; but if our marriages don't reflect that image, then the world is getting the wrong picture. This husband clearly understood his role as a husband and knew his role in ministry. How many of us can say the same? Wives do you know your role as a wife and in ministry? Do you know when you are doing too much outside the home and not putting that same energy into your spouse? The bible says we are to be helpmates (Gen. 2:18)- this encompasses many areas: encourager, builder, lifter, supporter, lover, server, forgiver, respecter, encourager. (Don't get bent out of shape with some of these titles) God has called us as wives to reverence our husbands (Ephesians 5:33b); let's start by encouraging them. The best thing you can do for a man is to let him know you got his back. That when the world has failed him, you won't. That when the world has let him down, you'll build him back up. Pick your husband up! Don't let him fall; because when he falls...you fall - you are one flesh.

So I am challenging the wives to step up this month (starting July 1) and minister to your husbands. I am giving you a challenge. And that challenge is to encourage your husbands for 30 days! You can't say anything negative about your husband, to your husband, or to anyone else. I know what you're thinking - wow, 30 days - that's a long time; but he is worth more than 30 days...this should be a life time commitment. But I'm also challenging you to keep a journal (for your own personal use) about how you feel, how the process is going, what are some changes you see in your spouse, what are some changes you see in yourself, etc. And then finally if you want to post comments or share anything (as long as it's not negative about your husband), please feel free to do so. You can post comments here or send them to my email: godsunion@comcast.net. And lastly, I will encourage you! I know this won't be an easy month for some of you who accept the challenge. But know that I will be praying for you and your marriages every night. I will try to post the challenge every day and words of insight and encouragement. But you will not be alone. There will be a host of other women and we'll be connected spiritually through our journey. And God will be with you - allow Him to work through you and don't forget to go to Him daily for yourself, your marriage, and for strength. I love you and I look forward to hearing from you. Share this information with other married women, engaged women, or women in relationships.

It's time to build up our men! Are you up for the challenge?

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