It's the little things!

El & I discuss the little things that keep the spark in your marriage. Romance doesn't stop when you get married. You should continue to romance your spouse and this is not just for men; women you should also continue the romance. A website to assist you in the romance area is The Dating Divas at http://thedatingdivas.com

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What are you thankful for?

Thanksgiving is a time to be thankful for what God has done and is doing in your life. It's a time to relax and celebrate with family and friends. Eat turkey and dressing and watch football. What are your family traditions? Have you made your own traditions or are they passed down from generations? 

This year, El and I will be spending Thanksgiving enjoying each other's company. We don't have any specific plans, unlike past Thanksgivings that were spent with family. We have so much to be thankful for; not just on Thanksgiving, but everyday. God has truly been awesome and we have to acknowledge His goodness! 

El is thankful for 

• God's grace and mercy
• me (his wife)
• and his son, CJ

I am thankful for 

• God's awesome love and favor
• My family and friends (especially my husband and son)
• and peace of mind

Of course this list could go on and on because we have so much to be thankful for. 

What 3 things are you thankful for this season?

The Power of Prayer

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Join our discussion about the power of prayer and how prayer is needed in your marriage.

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Anniversary Photo Shoot! 11-9-15

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Enjoy a few pictures from our Anniversary Photo Shoot.

Photos courtesy of Keith Jefferson [on IG - @graffitti_greatness].

Music courtesy of our son - C Ma"J"or [on IG - @cmajorslodownent].
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Unequally Yoked

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[For those dating and the singles]

Are you listening to God's voice when it comes to whom you should date seriously? Are you living the life God has called you to live. Let Christ guide you in the direction He would have you to go as it relates to life and your future spouse. You will save  yourself years of heartache if you allow Christ to send you a spouse instead of trying to force someone to be your spouse that God has not placed in that position.

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It's our anniversary!

Join El and I in a discussion on how we've survived 19 years of marriage. The highs and lows and what we've learned. Stay tuned for pictures from our anniversary photo shoot! Coming soon. If you can't view the video, click HERE.

Another year... and this makes 19!

I love your kisses

You may recall the anniversary blog from last year. Well, today we are celebrating year 19! Wow, what a year this has been. I'm still in love with this awesome man. He's still my best friend and I still enjoy spending all my time with him.

There is no traditional wedding gift for the 19th year; however, my bae did an incredible job in the gift department.

Our family 11.9.1996

Our special day 19 years ago!

Our napkins from the reception

His gifts to me:

• New wedding ring - Marquis diamond ring with ring guard
  
• Sunday afternoon photo shoot (pics coming soon) around the city of Memphis
• Dinner 

My gifts to him:

• Two Titanium wedding bands
• 10 balloons filled with love notes (idea courtesy of Dating Divas)
• Dinner and movie
• Two cards 

Love is in the atmosphere! I thank God for my best friend. I thank God for another year with my best friend. I am so grateful for our love. I thank God for our purpose and the guidance to do ministry together. Thank You, Lord for giving us another year!

Dear El,

There is no one I would rather do life with. You were definitely sent by God to be my Boaz. Thank you for choosing me to share your life. Thank you for making me a priority. Thank you for providing for our family. Thank you for giving me security. Thank you for parenting our son. Thank you for being an awesome man, husband, father, friend, protector, mentor, and lover. I love you and I respect you. 

Always,

Your wife, Z (Your Schnuky)

Tuesday Tip #8: Marriage Ministry

El and I started a marriage ministry in our home in 2007. We had no idea that that very ministry would minister to our own marriage. Eight years later we are still learning how to be the best spouses we can be to each other. The secret -- we have to live what we preach. Not only do we have to study material before we present it, but we also have to live out what we're presenting. We don't get to stand in front of other couples and not practice what we preach. It's important to El and I to be living examples of God's love for the church and the church's reverence to God. Are we perfect? Hell no, far from it. Do we still argue? Yes, certainly. The difference now is that we know how to resolve conflict quicker and we're eager to forgive. We still don't have this marriage thing mastered. But we are working every day. We are working every day. We are working every day. We. Are. Working. Every. Day! Marriage is work! We never threaten divorce. We never stay angry longer than an hour. We never sleep in separate rooms or beds. We never hit below the belt (calling names, cussing, or talking about parents). We never physically hit each other (we have in the past, but we don't anymore). We never stop loving one another. We never stop caring. And most importantly, I think, we spend a bunch of time with each other. We spend so much time together that we don't have time for outside mess, outside threats, outside influences, or any other outsiders.  

Furthermore, the couples that come to us for mentoring are usually coming to us with issues we've just dealt with or are dealing with at that moment and so we are not just helping them but we are helping our marriage as well. We're learning a new way of looking at our issues. We often have an "aha" moment and realize that we could resolve an issue another way. God knows exactly what He is doing and He knows what we need. 

I'm not saying you have to do ministry together to have a great marriage. However, why not try studying the Word together or doing marriage devotions together and discussing them. It will enhance your marital relationship and you'll gain new insights on how to have a great marriage. In fact, there is a Lifelong Love Marriage Summit happening now. It's free and online! You and your spouse can watch the videos and discuss it in the privacy of your own home. And if you'd like to discuss publicly, you can do so by leaving a comment here or on our Facebook page. 

Resolving Conflict

How do you and your spouse handle conflict? El & I share 4 tips on how to resolve conflict. Click HERE if you cannot view video.